Events and Sales I Would Totally Go To/Shop…

… if I didn’t have a two-year-old and had tons of cash!


580 Hayes Street—The space at the former Hayes & Kebab is throwing an art show tonight from 6 to 9pm featuring photography by Jarda Brych, mural art by John Baden, and lots more. This is probably the last event here before the space is demolished and condos are build in the space.

Fiat Lux—Tonight, from 7 to 11pm, the tiniest, awesomest jewelry store in SF is hosting its annual truck show with Claire Kinder Studio & Daisy San Luis Metal. The space might be small, but the couple behind Fiat Lux knows how to throw a party, and they have amazing taste. (I’m going to try to make it to this one!)

Amour Vert—Tomorrow, Saturday, July 26, stylist and “eco-ambassador” Greta Eagan will be at the new store to sign copies of her new book Wear No Evil. Sophia Bush called it “the ultimate, all-in-one style guide with ethics built in that we’ve all been waiting for.” Eagan will be there from 12 to 3pm at 437 Hayes Street in San Francisco. I don’t know about you but I’m way ready to get rid of the sweat shops in my life. (OK so I’m actually going to this one, see you there?)

Ligne Roset—The brand’s floor sample sale is happening through August 3, so go get some mid-century goodness for you place. The store is at 162 King Street in SF. Just make sure a baseball game isn’t happening when you go!

Legion—One of my favorite new shops in San Francisco has marked down summer merchandise from brands including Ilana Kohn, Rachel Rose, Theonne, Collina Strada, Kathryn McCarron, Kaarem and more 40% off! Find the shop in Chinatown at 679 Clay Street.

Would You Renew Your Wedding Vows? Because I Kind of Want To #TBT

0500Dancing with my new sister-in-law at my wedding in 2003

Back in the early years of this blog, I was a little bit obsessed with throwing a vow-renewal party and wearing a hippie wedding dress to the event. September 2013 marked our 10th anniversary, so that seemed like the perfect opportunity, and a great excuse for a party and a new dress. OK, you know what I’m going to say. I’m obsessing again.
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Crush Your Summer Beach Style With Serena & Lily (and Come to This Party!)

Photo via Serena & Lily

After launching Serena & Lily in Sausalito 11 years ago, founders Serena Dugan and Lily Kanter opened their first brick and mortar store in California, the Serena & Lily Design Shop in San Francisco (on Sacramento Street, naturally!) back in May. If you haven’t seen it yet, check out these photos at SF Girl by Bay, and you’ll be scheduling a trip, stat. Obviously, the place has gorgeous and dreamy interior goods galore: furniture, art, decorative pieces, rugs and tons more. But, S & L wants you to know that they’ve got some special merchandise for summer including beach blankets, cover-ups, scarves, travel cases, tote bags, home textiles and lots more.

That’s where I come in: I’m partnering with Serena & Lily to get the word out, and to co-host an accessories trunk show at the new Design Shop on July 30. It’s an opportunity to check out these fun products in person, because they’re usually available online only. And if you buy something at the event, you get free shipping, woot! We’ll be sipping wine and having a little nosh at 3457 Sacramento Street from 5 to 7pm. I hope ya’ll will join us! RSVP here.

Get more details and check out the merch below!
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Be the First to Shop This Chic Camp Clothing Collection


San Francisco designer Tamar Wider (she also designs the jewelry line The 2 Bandits) launched her Fall/Winter Camp Collection today. The concept behind all of her Camp designs is to make chic clothing for people who love the outdoors. Like you can actually wear these clothes camping and still look cute. Very Undone Done. Tell your friends: you don’t have to wear head-to-toe REI just because you’re hiking. Granted there’s no real functional gear in these collection… so if you’re going to be outdoors in some serious weather, fine, go to REI. But if you’re taking a hike in Santa Cruz, or camping in Big Sur where the weather is always nice, or picnicking in Sonoma, this collection is perfect.

Or, you don’t have to be doing stuff outside. You could be having some casual indoor fun and look stylish in Camp. See for yourself below in the Fall 2014 lookbook, just released today. It was shot in Australia by Renee Carey, featuring model Rachel Rutt,


Click below for more of my faves from Camp!
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So There Are Going To Be a Few Changes Around Here

I’m majorly overwhelmed and thankful for the response to my post on Friday about getting fired. I have to say I was really nervous to expose myself like that, and I asked my husband, who is really good at tough love editing, to read the post twice before I clicked the publish button. In this case he had only positive things to say, so I went for it and I can’t even tell you how glad I am that I did. In addition to the 94 (!) comments on Facebook and 20 comments on the post itself, I also received private messages from friends who had been fired or gone through other experiences that shook their self esteem, thanking me for the post. It seems to have made a lot of people feel less shitty about getting fired.

So I’m going to take that honesty ball and run with it. I’ll be posting here daily, and I’ll do my best not to make things seem shinier or happier than they really are. For example, I’m telling you right now that while Frida was just reaching the top of that ladder (see above), I looked away for one second and she FELL probably 6 feet or so and it was terrifying. The husband was nearby and he came running over and I felt totally guilty for being the bad parent who let her fall.
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So I Got Fired Yesterday

Yep, I got canned. It’s kind of the worst feeling, and it’s embarrassing, and my first instinct was to not let anyone ever know this really humiliating thing happened to me. In fact, I fibbed to one of my closest friends yesterday when I told her I couldn’t make it to the girl’s night out we’d planned because I’d “quit” my job and was upset about it (really sorry, Shadin).

Then I talked to my husband, who also got fired last year. He decided then not to take his employer’s offer to say it was a mutual agreement, not really a firing. I asked him why he would not take that opportunity to save face, and he said because it’s liberating to tell the truth. The job wasn’t right for him, and he got fired, why sugarcoat it? That got me thinking about my own hesitation to admit the truth of my shitcanning.

Then we picked up our daughter from daycare. As I waited for her caretaker to open the door, I was overwhelmed by the feeling that what’s on the other side of that door is what’s most important. Then it opened, and she gave me that smile and ran to me like I was the the most awesome person on earth.

I see quotes about how failure is good and necessary all over social media every day.

Here’s a great one from Maya Angelou:

“Courage allows the successful woman to fail-
and learn powerful lessons-
from the failure-
so that in the end,
she didn’t fail at all.”

Various outlets publish tons of lists of quotes on failure every year—but hardly anyone talks about their actual failures (Here’s one exception).

While reading the quotes makes me feel not as terrible, facing what’s real feels even less terrible. I want to live up to that awesome-person status, which would seem to require being an honest person. I got fired yesterday, y’all. I did some good writing at that job and I’m proud of my work. In the end it wasn’t enough, and it’s time to move on. So here’s to what’s next… omg what is next? I’ll try to figure that out over the weekend. Check back Monday, won’t you?

High Tops Sneaks for Healthy Feet and Youthful Feelings

Converse has a whole new color palette for their classic Chuck Taylor design. Major designers have really cute ones right now. Freda Salvador’s Sneak version is still going strong. And, best of all, a pair of crazy-colorful DC high tops saved my foot.

A few weeks ago I injured the ball of my foot in dance class, and I didn’t think I was going to be able to dance in the Pride parade. It really hurt. Obviously I am no podiatrist, so please see a doctor if you have an injury. But in this particular case, I had a sense that my foot needed super stable shoes that would act almost like a cast (and I was too lazy/in denial to make a doctor appointment). So I bought these DC high tops—bonus that they were over-the-top bright and inexpensive. And they were awesome! The relatively flat sole, excessive cushioning and high-top support stabilized my foot enough to get me through the parade. And I got mad compliments on my colorful footwear.

Again, don’t be like me and try to treat your own injury. Jenn Pattee of Basic Training told me that’s like putting your broken down car in the garage and expecting it to fix itself. But the high tops did the trick, at least temporarily (ok yes I’m icing and I will go to the doctor if it gets worse). Also now I’m obsessed and want more. The wedge style seems to be still going strong, but I’m kind of favoring the old school flat-soled look, especially since these days I’m chasing after a two-year-old. The other bonus is I feel like a total kid when I’m wearing them.

Pride Parade, San Francisco, 2014

Dudley Flores, our fearless leader, et moi

Dudley Flores, our fearless leader, et moi

This was my second year dancing in SF’s Gay Pride with Rhythm and Motion program. Last year I wrote about being really nervous at the beginning, but feeling more confident as the parade progressed. This year, maybe because I’d gotten one more year of dance under my belt, or maybe just because I’m a year older, I wasn’t nervous at all. I was just feeling free to be you and me (remember that song?) with these awesome people.

before parade

The parade seemed longer this year, there was a lot of waiting around at the beginning and I was pooped by the end! I can only imagine how Dudley, creative director of Rhythm and Motion, and the other teachers must have felt after organizing and instructing all day, bless them. Speaking of, our group (go group C!) owes a huge thanks to Rebecca Sunderland Setziol for being an amazing leader. Here are a few snaps and the video below where you can check out our contingency in action. I like the part when Dudley blows his whistle and I freeze to prepare for the slide/punch move, HAHA.

Don’t tell anyone but I wore the same thing to the parade last year, except of course for our new R&M tank tops. The skirt is Gat Rimon from Mira Mira. It’s perfect for dancing! I did also get new sneakers—they’re DC high tops. Stay tuned for more about my current high tops obsession.

#TBT Fun at Mira Mira, Then and Now (Ladies Night Is Tonight!)

Photo by Molly DeCoudreaux

Almost exactly two years ago, I asked my friend Mira Pickett, who owns the boutique Mira Mira in the Mission, to style me for a photo shoot for this blog. The concept was “undone done,” a way of dressing the two of us had bonded on when we first met. Since it’s Thursday (#TBT!) I figured it was a propos to dig up one of those photos. As you can tell, we had a blast!

I’m so excited that two years later we’re even better friends, and that TONIGHT we’re collaborating again, this time on a Ladies Night event at the shop with eyewear startup Brownie and Madam. Get a personal styling session from a Brownie and Madam stylist, plus 10 percent off if you order glasses. You’ll also get 15 percent off everything at Mira Mira during the party.
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The Sneaker That Appeals to Skater Rebels and Suburban Moms Alike


My college boyfriend wore Vans to prom. He showed me photos of him in his tux wearing the slip on version of the skater sneakers—they were a blue check if I remember correctly—and the image made me realize he was cooler than I had given him credit for. The fact that his prom date, who I was not convinced he was OVER, was very attractive and frustratingly blond also helped me come to this conclusion.
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