Highlight and Contour Makeup Is Not as Fake-Looking as You Think

As I’ve mentioned, I don’t usually wear a lot of makeup. I like a natural look and I don’t have the time or patience to do much more. But who can look away when faced with one of these amazing makeup tutorial videos? This one made me think maybe I should rethink my minimal approach. I mean, I definitely won’t do this every day in this lifetime. But for photos or events, I kind of love how much it transforms her face without looking really makeup-y—despite the fact that the look is supposed to emulate Kim Kardashian. You can skip the last step completely (stop at 4:16) if you’re not interested in hyper-defined cheekbones.
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Five Essentials for Getting a No-Makeup Makeup Look


I promise I’m wearing makeup. Frida’s glow is 100% natural.

I was once walking through Neiman Marcus, heading out of the store, late as usual to get somewhere as I passed through the beauty department. A woman from one of the brands lunged at me and exclaimed: “No makeup! Let’s do your face!” In my mind I said: “I’ll have you know I spent a good 10 minutes applying this makeup.” But I just told her sorry, I’m in a rush. But I was offended that my beauty efforts were apparently not apparent. Then I realized it was a compliment, because looking like I’m not wearing makeup is my goal. There are those special events when I want a little something special, like winged eyeliner or a bold lip. But on a day-to-day basis, I’m all about the natural look.

Summer is the perfect time to experiment with the no-makeup makeup look, and it’s super easy (as it should be) to achieve. Here are my five essentials for looking like I’m not wearing any makeup. I mean you obviously could just not wear any makeup, but for me that would mean invisibly small eyes and sun damage spots and god knows what else. Also a note: I’ve always had oily skin so I tend to go for powder makeup (I know everyone says its good and ok to use moisturizing makeup on oily skin but I’m 46 and averse to change), but you could easily make substitutions if you’re more of a liquid/cream makeup kinda gal. Check out my essentials below!
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Getting Fired, Growing Older: Gifts That Keep on Giving

getting fired, old

When you write a blog post about how you got fired, then get tons of supportive and kind comments from friends, colleagues, former colleagues and family members, it will feel super cathartic. You’ll feel a bit euphoric for a while. You might even say to yourself: “Man! I’m psyched I got fired!” You might get some employment offers—you did not see that coming.

And then one day you’ll walk into a press-only area at a huge music festival in your city, whereupon a former colleague will exclaim: “How’d you get in?” Other members of the press will look askance (You’ll find out later she sincerely meant no malice. She can’t help it if getting canned has made you a crazy-sensitive person.).
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What if This Chocolate Peanut Butter Madness Were an Outfit?

Chocolate Peanut Butter Madness Outfit

chocolate madness at chocolands Are you familiar with Chocolands at the Outside Lands Music Festival? It’s exactly what it sounds like: a land filled with chocolate, and decorated with chocolate-dipped strawberry skull lanterns hanging from the trees. It’s a delightful place. We went for the Sharona’s chocolate covered brownie, and the handmade peanut butter cup and omg we didn’t regret it. I ate half of the brownie, stashed the rest in my bag, and was SUPER excited to munch on that on the long shuttle ride home. And so I got to thinking, what if this deliciousness were an outfit? The above is what came to mind, and I kind of want everything, especially that Rachel Pally dress. Shop the look below!

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Check out my other Outside Lands posts about street style, old school find my friends techniques, what to wear, and how to get the most out of the festival.

How To Be a Dirty Hippie Without Smelling Like One

camp collection teePhoto via Camp Collection

As I mentioned yesterday, I spent the weekend in the Russian River Valley at my friends’ new place. One thing I didn’t mention is that they’re working on the bathroom, so we couldn’t shower. Personally that’s perfectly fine with me, but I do prefer to not offend others if possible. And since I recently stopped using traditional deodorant (because of that thing where you can’t even scrub that stuff off in the shower??), it was a bit of a challenge. Turned out I had plenty of products on hand to stay relatively stink-free. So whether your camping, temporarily shower-less, or just lazy, here are some products that will prevent you from becoming friendless.
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So I Just Put My Age on Facebook

I was 6 in 1974.

I was 6 in 1974.




I’m 46. That might be even scarier to say than “I got fired.”

We all know age is often a closely guarded secret by women. “How old are you?” is considered to be a very rude question indeed. Why? Because America hates old people.

Just kidding. I don’t know why it’s so terrible to admit you’re past 30 or 40 or whatever. Even some of the strongest women in history (Frida Kahlo, for example) lied about their age. Is it just too awful to go public about losing your ability to reproduce? To realize we’ll never experience young love again? To face that our career is not where we’d like it to be and time is running out? Whoa, hopefully that’s just me because that shit is depressing.

BUT. I was at a blogger event last night, where Miss Savvy in San Fran (AKA Melissa) told me she’d just celebrated her 40th birthday, to which I responded: “Oh, the 40s have been the best decade of my life!” And it’s totally true. Partly because a lot of awesome things happened (adopting a baby, moving to the beach, strengthening my marriage). But also because I’m comfortable in my own skin for the first time ever.

Yes I wish I’d felt this OK with who I am at 25, but it’s been a long road. Here’s one thing that happened:
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So I Got Fired Yesterday

Yep, I got canned. It’s kind of the worst feeling, and it’s embarrassing, and my first instinct was to not let anyone ever know this really humiliating thing happened to me. In fact, I fibbed to one of my closest friends yesterday when I told her I couldn’t make it to the girl’s night out we’d planned because I’d “quit” my job and was upset about it (really sorry, Shadin).

Then I talked to my husband, who also got fired last year. He decided then not to take his employer’s offer to say it was a mutual agreement, not really a firing. I asked him why he would not take that opportunity to save face, and he said because it’s liberating to tell the truth. The job wasn’t right for him, and he got fired, why sugarcoat it? That got me thinking about my own hesitation to admit the truth of my shitcanning.

Then we picked up our daughter from daycare. As I waited for her caretaker to open the door, I was overwhelmed by the feeling that what’s on the other side of that door is what’s most important. Then it opened, and she gave me that smile and ran to me like I was the the most awesome person on earth.

I see quotes about how failure is good and necessary all over social media every day.

Here’s a great one from Maya Angelou:

“Courage allows the successful woman to fail-
and learn powerful lessons-
from the failure-
so that in the end,
she didn’t fail at all.”

Various outlets publish tons of lists of quotes on failure every year—but hardly anyone talks about their actual failures (Here’s one exception).

While reading the quotes makes me feel not as terrible, facing what’s real feels even less terrible. I want to live up to that awesome-person status, which would seem to require being an honest person. I got fired yesterday, y’all. I did some good writing at that job and I’m proud of my work. In the end it wasn’t enough, and it’s time to move on. So here’s to what’s next… omg what is next? I’ll try to figure that out over the weekend. Check back Monday, won’t you?

The Most Authentic Beach Hair You Can Get Without An Ocean

beach hair 2.

I am actually looking at an ocean right now, but it’s a very cold one, and it’s pouring rain outside. Basically there aren’t all that many occasions when dunking your head into the sea would be worth a coveted harido. Hence the “surf spray” phenomenon. But I never really got “texturizers” and the rest of those products that make sexy-messy hair promises. They all just made my hair limp and heavy.
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This Is My Skin on Technology

Just a picture of me and my face.

Just a picture of me and my face.

It occurred to me recently that my vanity is crowded not only with makeup, nail polish, curling irons, and various skin creams, but also quite a few items that can be reasonably categorized as technology. It also occurred to me that I love not having to go to a spa to use these devices. That’s exactly how lazy I am: going to a spa is even too much work. Luckily, if you throw a little money at the situation (though less than it would likely cost for a few spa treatments), you, too, can use these treatments in the comfort of your own home. Here are my tried and true beauty technologies. Note: when my husband looked at this post, he said: “They all look like pain machines.” I promise only one of them hurts (only just a little).
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Embracing the Gray


Photo via Instagram

Last week I posed what proved to be a controversial question: should I chop my hair off? Here’s another one for you: should I let my hair go white? Would you let your hair go gray, or dye it all the way? I don’t think I have enough white at this point for a thoroughly silver head of hair like the gorgeous Constance Leto, pictured above with her equally gorgeous son Jared. But lord knows I haven’t given my hair an opportunity to go white: I started dying it the moment those first grays, wiry and wild, started to make an appearance.
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